Healthy Relationships

What is a healthy relationship?

People in healthy relationships respect each other. They are able talk honestly and freely to each other and share decisions. They trust and support each other and respect each other's independence. Healthy relationships are all about trust, honesty and compromise. 

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships

The signs of a healthy relationship include:

  • Taking care of yourself
  • Respecting your partner's right to be himself or herself
  • Having your own life outside the relationship
  • Making decisions together and compromising when necessary
  • Resolving conflicts through communication
  • Having more good times than bad

View the Equality Wheel to see how partners interact in healthy relationships. 

The signs of an unhealthy relationship include: 

  • Focusing all your energy on your partner
  • Trying to change your partner
  • Losing friends and family
  • Dropping activities you enjoy
  • One partner yells, hits, or throws things at the other during arguments
  • Having more bad times than good 

View the Dating Violence Wheel to see how power and control exhibit themselves in unhealthy relationships 

How to maintain a healthy relationship

They key to maintaining a healthy relationship is having open and honest communication, keeping a life that is still your own, being loving but not overbearing and respecting your partner. 

Fast Facts!

  • 1 in 5 teens who have been in a serious relationship report being hit, slapped or pushed by a partner.
  • 1 in 3 girls who have been in a serious relationship say they’ve been concerned about being physically hurt by their partner.
  • 1 in 4 teens who have been in a serious relationship say that a boyfriend or girlfriend has tried to prevent them from spending time with friends or family; the same number have been pressured to only spend time with their partner.
  • 1 in 3 girls between the ages of 16 and 18 say sex is expected for people their age in a relationship; half of teen girls who have experienced sexual pressure report they are afraid the relationship would end if they did not give in.
  • Nearly 1 in 4 girls who have been in a relationship (23%) reported going further sexually than they wanted to as a result of pressure.

    Above information is from

Dating Bill of Rights

I have the right…

  • To always be treated with respect.  In a respectful relationship, you should be treated as an equal.
  • To not be hurt physically or emotionally.  You should feel safe in your relationships at all times.
  • To be in a healthy relationship.  A healthy relationship is not controlling, manipulative, or jealous.  A healthy relationship involves honesty, trust, and communications.
  • To not be hurt physically or emotionally.  You should feel safe in your relationship at all times.
  • To refuse sex or affection at anytime.  A healthy relationship involves making consensual sexual decisions.
  • To not have sex.  Even if you have had sex before, you have the right to refuse sex for any reason.
  • To have friends and activities apart from my boyfriend or girlfriend.  Spending time by yourself, with male or female friends, or with family is normal and healthy.
  • To end a relationship.  You should not be harassed, threatened, or made to feel guilty for ending an unhealthy or healthy relationship.  You have the right to end a relationship for any reason you choose.